destiny's child was always my favourite when i was growing up. i remember singing along to this song whenever it came on mtv base, which is all i used to watch apart from cartoons. i really like cater 2 u but i never really payed attention to the lyrics before recently. i think they're generally sweet and romantic. this post is going to be about the lyrics and feminism and hopefully i'll make at least some sense.
the lyrics are quite submissive and i was wondering if that's a problem with feminists; is the general idea to be in complete control and power all the time? i was thinking that maybe it's okay, because if a woman wants to be something then she really should be. there isn't anything wrong with being there for your partner all the time or being a housewife, as long as it's what you want and you enjoy it. i'm not very sure about part of kelly rowland's verse in this song though, where she sings: i promise you i'll keep myself up/remain the same chick you fell in love with/i'll keep it tight, i'll keep my figure right/i'll keep my hair fixed, keep rocking the hottest outfits - because change is inevitable in all humans, no matter how small. i guess it's good if your partner encourages you to look after yourself and be healthy etc, but not to the point where you're under pressure to be 'perfect' or a certain way. a feminist can be very physically put together or not, right? the butch, hairy lesbian stereotype is kind of annoying, but there's nothing wrong with being one either. i can sense myself rambling soon so i think i'll stop now, but what i might be trying to say (i have no idea what i'm saying, ever) is that someone's intentions should be valued over their appearance.
lol what has that even got to do with the song?
I agree that if something like being a housewife makes you happy, then go ahead. But sometimes people don't realise that what they're doing might not actually be for them. They could be missing out on working for themselves and earning their own money. It's the same for men but the other way round. If a man was a househusband, they would be looked down on (society is stupid).
ReplyDeleteSo, basically, what Kelly Rowland is saying is that she'll live her life through her man? You don't have to be a 'butch, hairy lesbian' to be a feminist. You can still wear the 'hottest outfits' but by her saying she'll do it for her man changes it all. I know she's not actually saying it but these things teach other girls and then they think it's normal for them to be judged by their partner.
I've actually never heard that song before. I quite like Destiny's Child to dance too, I never really listen to the lyrics.
Nice post, it got me thinking about what people of our generation used to listen to and what messages come across. Maybe I should listen to some lyrics of Avril Lavigne as I just constantly listened to her haha.
(Oh, and I can't be bothered to read this back so if it doesn't make sense, I'm sorry.)
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yes and society is contradictory, all the mixed messages it sends are so confusing. i guess so but i think there are also people who prefer to serve others and are probably submissive in some way by nature idk. some people might not value money or work so much, it's interesting how different we all are.
Deleteyess!!! the way some people let their partners walk all over them makes me sad. people can get so scared of the ones they love that they can't even tell them how they feel about how they're being treated, so they keep on being treated like shit and nobody does anything about it.
no you're making sense mabel, thank you for replying to this. :-) it feels really good to know that something i wrote made you think aw. yeah some of those songs i used to listen to make me cringe now, because the lyrics are really sexual or just plain stupid haha.
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